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Not sure if this is the right group for my questions but here it goes... Let me start by saying that I am not bashing my ex wife or her live in boyfriend,I am speaking as a concerned father. I have a 10 yr old boy and 5 yr old girl who I get every other weekend.For the last couple of visits my son and daughter have told my wife( I am remarried) and myself that "Joe" this is not his real name is always mean to them and blames them for everything that goes on. "Joe" has 2 children from his previous relationship.And by the sounds of it they can do no wrong.I have tried to talk to my ex about how the kids are feeling but I always get "You don't know how hard it is to raise 2 kids". My wife has 2 kids so yes I do know what it is like. My son has told his grandmother (her mom) that he wants to come live with us. She told this to my son's mom and rather than talking to him about it, she locked herself in the bathroom and cried.My wife and Stepchildren do not bad mouth her infront of the kids what so ever.However she can't say the same thing, on more than one occasion the kids have told us what has been said about us, I try not to let it bother me but its only natural that it does. I do my best for all 4 of my kids and do not treat anyone of them diffrent than the other, either does my wife. Now that I have vented I will ask my question..lol Does anyone know the age that a child has to be when they can decide where they want to live? Having my son live with me will cause him and his sister to be apart(she won't leave her mom and I would never make that choice for her).What do I do? What steps do I take?Ok that was more than one question lol. Any advice would be appreciated!!