How does someone know when they finally found that special someone? Should age matter? Should the amount of time you've known someone matter? Is there such a thing as love at first site? If you find that someone who makes you smile, who can make you laugh, and who even at your grumpiest and worse still want to be near you: are they the right one for you? i've been in other relationships, and have never felt like this! But my friends think it's too soon to be thinking seriously! I have been married before, 10 yrs, and even with him it didn't feel like this.  
 
Would love some input from others! Even long term or short term relationships advice are welcomed!  
 
I know how i feel, and just was curious on others take! how did you know?

Edited by admin, 2012-06-14 09:17:46. Reason: title

I think you can like someone or be attracted to someone at first sight but talking about love in that level of relationship requires knowledge. Love is based on true knowledge of who and what ur partner really is. You can never be wrong or be too careful in trying to know ur partner and such knowledge also helps in building trust. so take ur time and have an adventure of knowing ur partner. Love is not a feeling, but there is feelings in love. what u feel about someone could change cos of what they did or did not do.

You know you found that special someone when you haven't smothered them in their sleep after 20 years.

Should age matter? .....NOPE  
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Should the amount of time you've known someone matter? ......NOPE  
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Is there such a thing as love at first site? .........YES  
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If you find that someone who makes you smile, who can make you laugh, and who even at your grumpiest and worse still want to be near you: are they the right one for you?.........not necessarily. He/she could just be your neighbor - and they would put up with you too.  
 
i've been in other relationships, and have never felt like this! ....let me guess, are you in your late 30's?  
 
But my friends think it's too soon to be thinking seriously!........doesnt matter what your friends think! They are likely jealous.  
 
I have been married before, 10 yrs, and even with him it didn't feel like this. ..............you are in another phase of your life cycle. It happens. I can relate to that as well.  
 
Even long term or short term relationships advice are welcomed! ........stats show that men take "advantage" of Single Moms. They see her as being home with her kids alot, so they dont need to worry about your whereabouts. They know you could provide them with "food" cause you have to feed your kids. My advise to you, iff you are a "Single Mom" is be very wary of who you allow into your kids life. Most men will just take advantage of you, and when they lose that flavour, they will be hitting the hills running - and you will be left standing wondering WTH???  
 
Like someone said to me once, "you can choose your life story to be a lengthy Novel, or it can be made up of short stories (like Readers Digest). So, just be aware, most men prefer their life story to be like a Readers Digest. KWIM?  
 
I know how i feel, and just was curious on others take! how did you know? ..................and i am still trying to figure it out too!

amethyst.d said "Should age matter? .....NOPE   .   Should the amount of time you've known someone matter? ......NOPE   .   Is there such a thing as love at first site? .........YES   .   If you find that someone who makes you smile, who can make you laugh, and who even at your grumpiest and worse still want to be near you: are they the right one for you?.........not necessarily. He/she could just be your neighbor - and they would put up with you too.     i've been in other relationships, and have never felt like this! ....let me guess, are you in your late 30's?     But my friends think it's too soon to be thinking seriously!........doesnt matter what your friends think! They are likely jealous.     I have been married before, 10 yrs, and even with him it didn't feel like this. ..............you are in another phase of your life cycle. It happens. I can relate to that as well.     Even long term or short term relationships advice are welcomed! ........stats show that men take "advantage" of Single Moms. They see her as being home with her kids alot, so they dont need to worry about your whereabouts. They know you could provide them with "food" cause you have to feed your kids. My advise to you, iff you are a "Single Mom" is be very wary of who you allow into your kids life. Most men will just take advantage of you, and when they lose that flavour, they will be hitting the hills running - and you will be left standing wondering WTH???     Like someone said to me once, "you can choose your life story to be a lengthy Novel, or it can be made up of short stories (like Readers Digest). So, just be aware, most men prefer their life story to be like a Readers Digest. KWIM?     I know how i feel, and just was curious on others take! how did you know? ..................and i am still trying to figure it out too! "

Men taking advantage of single moms? This is news to me as I have been told that prospective partners are spooked by someone with a child.

I think if you're coming to ebrandon seeking advice on what other people think, that you aren't completly sure yourself. if you're happy with this person continue being happy with them. continue spending time and letting the relationship grow.

I firmly believe in the half + seven formula. More than that and it's creepy.  
Take half the older person's age and add 7 years to it and you will get the minimum age the younger should be for it to work. I have yet to see it fail.

If the person you have found is all that you mention in your opening post, I would likely say congratulation, you have found someone special, who thinks you are important everyday, and that's the only thing that matters, but the feelings have to be mutual.

The OP asked for our advice. I am not here to defend my words, nor am I here to argue with you. K.??  
 
How about you address OPs question!!!?

Connected2News said "You know you found that special someone when you haven't smothered them in their sleep after 20 years. "

I will second that.

If you can fahrt in their presence and it is taken as a semi-controllable body function, then you have found the right person. You should not have to hold back anything (including fahrts) with your significant other.  
 
If you are still embarrassed if a bit of flatulence occurs then you are not ready to be together.

katwalk1909 said "If you can fahrt in their presence and it is taken as a semi-controllable body function, then you have found the right person. You should not have to hold back anything (including fahrts) with your significant other.     If you are still embarrassed if a bit of flatulence occurs then you are not ready to be together. "

and I thought when you didn't do that in front of him it was just being a lady not because I wasn't meant to be with him .

Katwalk, a fahrt is a ride so that doesn't really make sense.

Fahrt and fart are completely different things!  
 
I agree with the smothering comment, but I would say 10 years.

Thanks everyone for the input! I am happy with him, but it's still so new, and yes i'm a single mom, but he hasn't met my son yet...lives with his dad in another province! he wants to take me back home this sumer to meet his family...we are both from the east coast...feels like i've known him forever, makes me smile, makes me laugh, and yes i'm that comfortable i can fart in front of him and not be embarrased...he knows so much about my past and hasn't run yet! is still standing by me, and is willing to move the heavens adn stars for me if i was to ask...i only posted on here to get others thoughts...i'm secure with where i'm at witht his guy and it feels completely right! just nice to hear others input! thanks everyone...and i'll keep that in mind about he smothering part...

It sounds like the honeymoon phase and I hope it lasts for you! The only thing I will say is that you can not possibly know he is the one if he hasn't met your son. Until you see how he interects and relates with your child (and vice versa) you won't know if there is a future there.

 
 
Edited by 4little1s, 2012-06-14 15:39:27

In my experience, it sounds like you have a great foundation for a long term relationship... make sure communication is there, not just that you can talk about ANYTHING but also specifically that you can talk about the tough stuph. A good partner relationship consists of mental connection, physical connection and communication. Relationships are work but they are well worth it!

ChipsandDip said "It sounds like the honeymoon phase and I hope it lasts for you! The only thing I will say is that you can not possibly know he is the one if he hasn't met your son. Until you see how he interects and relates with your child (and vice versa) you won't know if there is a future there."

What i was trying to get at! Everything about it feels right, but until he meets my son, still not 100%...damn close though...so we wait and see what he does when that time comes..  
 
thanks for everyone's opinion...

EmmaW said "Fahrt and fart are completely different things!     I agree with the smothering comment, but I would say 10 years."

EmmaW said "Katwalk, a fahrt is a ride so that doesn't really make sense. "  
 
I would think it was a spelling error. No need to be childish about it.  
 
Nobody can ever tell you that you've found the right person...you will just know.

Newfie101 said "Thanks everyone for the input! I am happy with him, but it's still so new, and yes i'm a single mom, but he hasn't met my son yet...lives with his dad in another province! he wants to take me back home this sumer to meet his family...we are both from the east coast...feels like i've known him forever, makes me smile, makes me laugh, and yes i'm that comfortable i can fart in front of him and not be embarrased...he knows so much about my past and hasn't run yet! is still standing by me, and is willing to move the heavens adn stars for me if i was to ask...i only posted on here to get others thoughts...i'm secure with where i'm at witht his guy and it feels completely right! just nice to hear others input! thanks everyone...and i'll keep that in mind about he smothering part... "

well he sounds like a great guy from what you've said  
 
how do you feel about meeting his family? are you nervous lol? I remember bein nervous when I had to meet J's family lol. I say do it and have a blast!!!

sounds like a good start and there is nothing wrong with that but why be in a hurry? is he going anywhere? you could just enjoy getting to know him for a bit longer yet as he hasn't even meet your son and you may not have seen how each of you handle stressful moments yet either and those things are important when determining life partners, good luck and enjoy the ride but no sense in rushing

J & M said "    Newfie101 said "Thanks everyone for the input! I am happy with him, but it's still so new, and yes i'm a single mom, but he hasn't met my son yet...lives with his dad in another province! he wants to take me back home this sumer to meet his family...we are both from the east coast...feels like i've known him forever, makes me smile, makes me laugh, and yes i'm that comfortable i can fart in front of him and not be embarrased...he knows so much about my past and hasn't run yet! is still standing by me, and is willing to move the heavens adn stars for me if i was to ask...i only posted on here to get others thoughts...i'm secure with where i'm at witht his guy and it feels completely right! just nice to hear others input! thanks everyone...and i'll keep that in mind about he smothering part... " well he sounds like a great guy from what you've said     how do you feel about meeting his family? are you nervous lol? I remember bein nervous when I had to meet J's family lol. I say do it and have a blast!!! "

Not at all nervous to meet his family...i've spoken with all of them several times on the phone...they sound awesome...I'm actualy excited about it!

Sounds like you have something very special and you can build on that. I wish you all the best! Here is a quote for you:  
 
"The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself." Author Unknown

It's usually love at first site, every saturday night!!

once told me that to truly know you should be with a person for a full year. That way you know their habits in every season. I kinda liked it. None the less, sometimes you just know. I had the same inkling when I met my bf. We've been together a year now, and still going strong. I know he's the one for me, but we've had our ups and downs and worked our way through them. But there's been a LOT more ups. Hope that everything works out for you. Especially when he meets your child and you his family! Good luck and enjoy the ride!!!!

Age doesnt matter I dont think, its just a number.  
 
When you found the one you wnt to be with forever, you just know. Everything makes sense when he or she is around.  
 
I agree with others though, until he meets your child you can't possibly know or even your family.  
 
I met my husband and on the first date I knew I wanted to be with him forever, and vice versa.  
 
Good luck!