Was just curious what other peoples opinions are? It's been years later and i still think about my first love, and sometimes dream about him. Is this odd? What do you think?

I guess it depends on how it ended really... I detest my first bf/love and want nothing to do with him.

Lol. Your Post title may get some attention.  
 
Sorry, but he may be not the guy you remembered and has issues. Or he may be still hot and successful and you both decided to let go at that time.  
 
Look to the future and not the past as it will haunt you and it may be worse.  
 
I like to think if it was meant to be it was meant to be.  
 
But, people still show up in my dreams from way back, so I think that's normal.  
 
 
 
 
 
Edited by Slight Take, 2012-08-09 23:32:37

What a good title for a late night post :p  
 
But no I dont think your odd. First loves are often memorable and nothing really matches the intensity of a first love. I dont ever really think of my first love unless he likes or posts something on my fb lol. But I will say that all my memories are fond ones despite us obviously not working out.

I was very young and I still get "that feeling" when I see her.  
 
(And I am referring to my first love.)  
 
 
 
 
 
Edited by ChrisV, 2012-08-10 00:41:06

Go spend an hour with them and you'll be over it. And yes mods must be sleeping lol! I had to click cause I was so horrified! Lol jk!

Okay i'm not going to lie, i have never stopped loving my fist love.  
 
doho dohohoho.  
 
P.S. I've never stopped loving my first second and third loves either.  
 
 
 
Edited by degenerate108, 2012-08-10 00:34:19

never forget him...I can hear him snoring right now! lol! We dated in high school and he really was my first love. We broke up and 20 years later we ended up on a date and voila we are now married and have 3 beautiful boys. You know what, it was the fact that no one knew me as well as him, that always attracted me to him. We stayed close over those 20 years apart though. People who say "never look back"....never say never, you never know what the future, or the past, have in store.

funny you should ask. i just recently found my first 'love' on fb hehe its been ten years and i never thought i'd see him again (he still living in bc) anyways, i never did forget him and he says he still thinks about me. oh how i miss the young lovin' days lol

........NO, it is not true.

I still think about mine, and when he is in town, we have lunch or coffee together to chat and catch up. He's mentioned that he still has some feelings as well, but we both know, with him in one province, me in another, and we were/are both with other people right now, it wouldn't work.  
 
But I'm young still, so who knows what might happen in the future, haha. But seriously, I love the one I am with now

I think it depends on who broke up with who. I find that the ones that broke my heart I still think about and the ones I broke up with never get a second thought. It isn't necessarily the first love either. They do pop up in dreams here and there as well. Sometimes I look them up on facebook just to see what they are up to. I never actually contact them just check out their page.  
 
I did run into one of my ex's a few years ago while I was shopping. He was working at the store I was making my purchase from. It was shocking to come face to face with him after all these years. We did a bit of small talk and at the end of our conversation he asked me "Are you happy". I said YES. It really brought some closure for me I think. Then a bit later I heard him flirting with a female co-worker and I had to laugh at myself, YEP nothing had changed. I went home and told my husband how much I love him and how happy I am that I found him.

ladybug123 said "Was just curious what other peoples opinions are? It's been years later and i still think about my first love, and sometimes dream about him. Is this odd? What do you think? "

For some, it may be normal to think about their "first love" but for others, they have moved on and that is normal for them too.  
 
 
 

M.Wilson said "never forget him...I can hear him snoring right now! lol! We dated in high school and he really was my first love. We broke up and 20 years later we ended up on a date and voila we are now married and have 3 beautiful boys. You know what, it was the fact that no one knew me as well as him, that always attracted me to him. We stayed close over those 20 years apart though. People who say "never look back"....never say never, you never know what the future, or the past, have in store. "

That's sweet! Great story =)

That first love hits you hard, and is what separates him or her from everybody else. No matter what happens in my life, and how things ended with him, I was in love with him for a reason. And thinking back to that time (good and bad days) it was full of passion, that I do not regret. My heart was so full of excitement, love and what felt like was being used to it's full extent! For that I can look back and smile, what an expirence!! He will always have a special place in my heart, why wouldn't he!?

i agree with crossing fingers. the ones that i ended it with i dont think about, unless i happen to see them which is very rare as they live in other cities. this sounds stuck up but i dont mean for it too, i have never been broken up with but i would imagine if i was, those would be the ones id think about from time to time.  
 
but honestly, now that im with my fiance, i can say that i never truly loved any of the previous ones. it was just young relationships and dating. so i hope i never forget my first true love!!!  
 
you cant help what you dream about and i think its normal to dream about past relationships or friendships. i have the same guy in my dreams often and we are just friends. however, in my dreams he is more then a friend and that creeps me out and i feel guilty when i wake up but what can i do? LOL its strange too cuz in my dreams my friend looks like him but i call him my fiance's name sometimes. haha. stupid dreams!!

first loves have a special place in many people hearts but it doesn't mean you'd want them now, its just that as DeeSvee said first loves are so intense and usually don't work just because of age, sometimes because of other reasons, but i also occasionally think about my other long term exs too, when i run into anyone of my exs though it reminds me why i'm so happy that i found my husband lol after all we broke up for a reason

Im still with my first love! Highschool sweethearts! Been together for almost 9 years and couldnt be happier! I couldn't imagine life without him. Even if we ever broke up i will still love him, after all he is my best friend.

It is so nice to hear that some people are still together and passionately into their relationships - keep it up people - no wait keep whatever you've got happening going - don:t ever take it for granted.  
 
First Loves are intense - but not to each - and to those of us who are no longer with our first loves - there is a reason - it takes two to work at or want a relationship to stay happening. Nothing in life comes or stays flourishing without work or commitment. People can make mistakes but it is a choice whether they choose to stay together and work thru it together.  
Having left a marriage of 29.5 years - whereby there were marital issues in earlier years but we did at that time seek counseling and recommitted to working at our marriage and having a family - had three beautiful children with the man - but his anger, abuse - dreamed it would change - and for those who stay through that is fear of the unknown, but I do firmly believe that it is because they love the person they are with and they live with false hopes. So in speaking of my own situation - I will say will always love the man - did not love his behavior or anger and I am sure that is why I stayed so long in abusive relationship - hoped and wished for a change in his behavior. So Love those you can not be with for safety reasons from a distance but ensure your safety first - Cause Love is Blind!

So very true.  
 
My husband and I were dating on and off since the ninth grade. Four months the first time, thirteen the second, and we got married the third time. So I guess the saying "third times a charm" is very true.  
 
We got married last year

Some of you are confusing your first love with "people you have dated".

ChrisV said "Some of you are confusing your first love with "people you have dated". "

I can guarantee I'm not. He's my first and only love. I have dated a couple others, but I didn't love them.

I have dated 3 people before my current boyfriend that I wasn't overly attached to, but the man I am with now must be my one and only greatest love! Never felt so happy to be with anyone in my life!