Discussions

Kik has always been full of creeps. My daughter had an account a few years back. All was well within her circle of friends. Then came the harassment after a year into using it. I suspect is was because she starting posting some of her "dance pictures" that were done in a photo studio setting. The creeps immediately took attention. The pics before were not of herself (pets, landmarks, events, etc...), but pics of a tween in tight fitting dance leotards brought in all the scavengers and predators. It was unreal on how quickly things turned "weird & nasty" towards her and her friends. Fortunately for her, being twelve during that time, she told me what was happening and she stopped using it. Lesson learned, ...never put personal info or pictures on any open forum. Before we removed kik from her devise, I reviewed some of the questions, comments and pics. It was disturbing. From "you're pretty, how old are you?" ...To "You're soooo hot! I can't believe that I haven't seen you around at the bar!" and "I really want to get to know you" to finally a 'bulging crotch shot' with the quote "You are making me hard" and "Show me more of you and I'll show you more of me". Very sickening, but at least she told me what was happening and we ended it by getting off kik. Some of her friends stayed with kik a little longer and started getting full out 'dik pics' from those who they thought they knew, ...until they stopped using it. Looking back, I wish I had made a report, on her behalf. But, at the time I thought there wasn't enough to complain about, besides creepy & prying remarks ... and the "sock in the pants" photo. Her friends should have done something as well. But, in today's line of thinking of young people... it's all become the new normal. "Oh look! Another rude comment." "Check this out! Another phallic picture. It's not as good as the one last week ...but I'm going to save it and re-post it." That's just the girls! The boys are obviously more susceptible to getting caught only on the fact they are more on visual stimulation and shock factor and are prone to save and collect on images that are easily obtained and shared. It's plain stupid, but it's the 'new normal' to this bizarre way of interaction between others using technology. I suppose respect isn't an issue anymore when no one ever meets one another in person and has to look them directly in the eye.  
 
I like to hope to think that my daughter, who is now in High school, is capable of filtering out the boyish idiocy and recognize the real threats that are around her. But this tech now-a-days makes the times before the internet of pre 2005 so 'quaint'. Remember when guys would yell out something rude and/or hang their bare @$$ out of a moving cars window? Then they go back and rent a 'T&A flick' with a horrible 80's plot? How did that, turned to what it is now? What happen to morals, self respect, common sense, legal ramifications or just keeping private?  
 
I'm glad this guy got nailed. But, it's only one guy caught being rude and stupid. That's a drop in the ocean of bad behaviour. It's the social conditioning of accepting unfiltered thoughts and actions from anyone that's exists everywhere online, that's more worrisome. Maybe we truly need the "big brother" system watching over us just to have everyone paranoid enough to be always on a better social dialogue with others?  
 
Just my opinion, I could be wrong.

Too many think that this sort of behaviour is a choice, It is not. It is the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain, the inability to relate, at a healthy level, with their peer group.  
 
Mental illness is a nasty thing that does nasty things to people. Sadly, victims are involved.  
 
Addictive personalities are prone to this behaviour. They have no boundaries. The concepts of right and wrong do not exist in their worlds.  
 
The best thing to do is to educate children that there are dangerous people, and, lots of good people. Teach them the difference.

Good post Snowman!  
 
The combination of it being a 20-yr old guy and a social messaging app its possible the guy was sharing photos of g/f or ex-gf that was 17 at the time? It's terrible behavior but my mind immediately jumps to something worse when I read news like this.

I happen to know the Guy involved in this case, and it was NOT many times, it was once. The female involved also is lying through her teeth, and making more false claims than Clinton did during her campaign. The female also claimed to be 18 years of age, but turns out she lied about that as well. Thankfully there have been no posts totally berating either person. Let's wait for the court case to be had, and choose your words then.

ProfessorFaulken said "I happen to know the Guy involved in this case, and it was NOT many times, it was once. The female involved also is lying through her teeth, and making more false claims than Clinton did during her campaign. The female also claimed to be 18 years of age, but turns out she lied about that as well. Thankfully there have been no posts totally berating either person. Let's wait for the court case to be had, and choose your words then. "

so this is ok, for everyone to do this once? Does not matter the female lied about her age, many people do that.  
 
Once equals one time too many!

ProfessorFaulken said "I happen to know the Guy involved in this case, and it was NOT many times, it was once. The female involved also is lying through her teeth, and making more false claims than Clinton did during her campaign. The female also claimed to be 18 years of age, but turns out she lied about that as well. Thankfully there have been no posts totally berating either person. Let's wait for the court case to be had, and choose your words then. "

Well Professor... Let's look over the posted police report, shall we. He's charged will publication of an intimate image without consent, possession of child pornography, personation with intent and distribution of child pornography. Even if we knocked away the underaged stuff, which you blatantly stated the girl in the photo has lied (with the indication that all women, including famous female politicians, lie - which is leaning towards making a sexist statement), how can you justify this creepy guy for re-posting a naked photo image meant only for him? It's wrong behaviour. Your attitude signifies exactly what's wrong with modern social media. Blow it off with a sexist undertone joke of Clinton with no mention that he should had never sent that image to anyone else in the first place. What was his original intention with this gesture of presenting a nude photo of a girl to another girl? "Hey, check this out! This is what other girls are sending me. What do you think? Do you like it? Can you top that?" There's only three reasons he did that... Revenge by embarrassment, shock others for the attention or to invoke or entice another to produce a means of sexual gratification back towards himself. All three reasons are wrong to do. So, since you "know the Guy", ask him what was the motive behind sending that image? Let's hear the justification behind that reason. I think most of us can't wait to hear for the defense be presented during the court proceedings. ...Along with the evidence from both sides. ...Perhaps, like the comments attached with the picture and all of the conversation related to it.  
 
What you 'buddy' did was rude and stupid. What the girl in the picture did (at any age) was also rude and stupid. But, as a 20 year old, what he did is more illegal and far more creepy and disgusting in the eyes of the public. Do yourself a favor, Professor... put some distance between yourself and this 'friend of yours' and watch out for the sexist undertone in how you present your jokes online.  
 
Just my opinion, I could be wrong.

I do not think you are wrong. The "perp" is wrong. I happen to know a retired psychiatric nurse. Her #1 piece of advice?  
 
Don't do that.  
 
Second one? Police yourself.  
 
The accused got caught, once. No way in heck this is a "one off". He just has never been caught. Doesn't matter what the girl did or did not say. The accused had the specific responsibility to "Don't do that". He chose to do wrong and got caught.  
 
There is a basic premise in law that you  
"Knew or should have known". You can't go back later and say "I didn't know".  
 
He knew what he was doing was wrong.