| | | Walleyeking44 said "Who cares.. it is what it is. Everyone chooses there own paths " |
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Give your head a shake. This has got to be one of the most ignorant comments I''ve read on here in a long time.
This type of comment assumes that everyone has the same opportunities, experiences, abilities and help.
I grew up as child of the system. In and out of foster care my whole life. Every adult around me was either a bad influence (drugs, alcohol, crime). or someone who judged me because of my family (teachers, guidance counsellors,...the very people who should have been in a position to help me.)
I honestly graduated high school thinking that things like college were out of the realm of possibility for me. Because people in my life had treated me like trash, I believed it. I had a teacher once tell me that I was "destined to end up a welfare bum like your dad. Or maybe at best you''ll wind up flipping burgers or washing dishes."
It took moving away from the toxic environment I was brought up in, and the intervention from some REALLY kind people who saw potential in me, and THEN me overcoming my pride enough to accept their help. And it took a LOT of years of hard work. But I now have overcome addiction, gotten an education, gotten married, own my own home, have a great job. Life is great. People look at me and have no idea where I came from.
So you might be thinking "This proves my point, you dug yourself out of a bad situation. People choose their own paths." but you would be very very wrong. I was extremely lucky. Extremely lucky to have met good adults and role models who were willing to work hard to help me break down the barriers and walls that my upbringing had built. It took a long time for those people to un-do the damage that had been done to me physically and mentally.
If I didn''t have help from those kind people, I would have ended up like so many other people I know who came from similar situations. Because when you are raised your whole life having people tell you that you won''t amount to anything, you believe it. You don''t mean to. It just feels like a sinking weight that slowly pulls you down until you are completely convinced that you have no worth. And when you think you have no worth and nothing to offer, then everything seems pointless.
I was extremely lucky. But I put no judgement whatsoever into the people I knew who weren''t so lucky. Many of whom ended up in prison, others ended up dead. But ALL of the ones who survived that I can think of all live in poverty. I can't think of a single other kid in my situation I knew that didn't/isn't struggling with poverty.
Give your head a shake. Open your eyes to understand the world and people''s realities are much larger than your narrow viewpoint.
Edited by underXtheXradar, 2018-07-12 19:34:13