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I don't know why a person would not be on board with the push present idea? A gentleman usually gets a gal flowers out of the blue just for fun...Does he not think after 9 months of sickness, body stretching, and labour hell that his woman deserves a little pick me up?? (And if you're a woman and you think its a dumb idea, you're likely just bitter because you did not get one... and yes, I'm in that category too). Haha  
But darn right any lady who went through hell to bring a baby here from Heaven deserves a little something special. You're an ass if you think otherwise. What did you do, fella? 30 minutes of fun in the bedroom? If it's a financial concern write her a sweet, sincere poem, give her a ticket book of massages from yourself, plan a day where you pamper her OR splurge and buy the ring, flowers or day at the spa. She will appreciate your recognition.

I am a woman and think this is ridiculous. I am not bitter I didn't get one either.  
 
IMO the moment is about us becoming a family, celebrating the birth of our child together in a very intimate moment. Now we put the expectation that the man must come prepared with a gift. Omg!! Really. Sorry mom's but yes we just went through hell for 9 months followed by the worst 26 hours of my life but come on!!!! The baby is the gift. There is nothing stronger than the bond between mother and child. That is all I need. Maybe I just don't value possessions the same.  
 
My husband and I also don't exchange gifts throughout the year either. We buy things we want together, if I want a spa day and can afford it I do it. We make special days special in other ways by spending quality time together as a family.  
 
Seems like everyone just wants gifts these days. It's getting out of hand.

I'm a woman, I have 2 kids. They are my present. I don't need my husband to go out and spend money to know he love and appreciates me. In my opinion push presents are to show off to your friends "look what I got" and I'm not into that.

i thought this was about buying your kids some sort of toy that they push--sorry to say there is no need for presents for everything we do in life-you are going to need the money for food and diaper and clothes for the baby--  
 
Edited by james smith, 2015-07-10 09:18:12

IMO, it's simply about greed. The last thing a new dad needs to worry about is rushing out to get the "right" gift. The baby is the gift!! And then if dad doesn't get a good enough gift in the eyes of the mom, it would create hurt feelings. The whole thing is ridiculous. New parents have enough to worry about without adding that to it. Money is also often very tight for new parents, and this just creates an unnecessary cost.  
 
If a guy wants to get his woman a gift to celebrate their new child, fine, but to give it a name and make it a requirement is simply greed and show boating.

Sunshine Lover, if you think your baby came from Heaven chances are the stork dropped it off so the push present is a non-issue.

If you can afford it and you want why not

not good idea. More stress to create and more complaining about no money so this isn't a necessary expense to do.  
Any occasions or ideas people come up to receive gifts or have parties which both create expenses.

Screw the flowers.... New born mothers shouldn't want "commercialised symbols of love", but the much more needed support and attention they deserve. My wife didn't want overpriced cut plants... she wanted time to sleep, have all the house chores done and someone to be there for them (both for her and the baby). Any experienced mother would know that four to six hours of straight sleep is desired more than some "bling" and having someone else changing diapers during the other half the day will always trump a dozen roses.  
 
Just my opinion, I could be wrong.

I have the best gift. My baby girl. I knew what I was getting into. The gifts people give when you have your baby were enough for me.

I don't think it should be an expectation. It is an extra expense. Now if someone wants to give (no strings attached) because they can afford it or want to, I don't have any issue with it, but again, it should not be something that someone feels obligated to do or to get.  
 
I liked a family birthday party the day my babies were born. We brought out pre-made frozen foods and warmed them up. It was simple, intimate and fun...haha...and I was HUNGRY(!) so it made sense. Also, the other kids loved getting cupcakes together which were decorated with letters of each chosen name. Depending on if it was a boy or girl, they had to (and loved to) put the cupcakes out and spell it right. We also had a "0" candle ready.  
 
My husband was off work for a few days too and helped with anything needed. That is sacrifice which is the ultimate gift and much more appreciated and practical than just a thing.

Exactly - mothers should not want commercialized gifts, but they would 100% appreciate recognition and appreciation for what they have been through. How the partner does that is up to them - time to sleep, extra help around the house OR flowers etc. Any gesture is sweet and appreciated. Go Moms Go ~ you all are amazing and deserving of love and appreciation!!

If you need recognition for doing something like this, you're doing it for all the wrong reasons I think.

Sounds like the type of gift for a woman who just lays on her back

I agree they are stupid, my husband offered to buy me one but I didn't need anything but my baby. He has been the best gift I could ever get

Bahahahahahahahaha......Sorry.....A push gift? Isn't giving birth to life not enough of a gift? I know going through with my daughter I wasn't carrying, but being the guy I dealt with the mood swings, food cravings at all times of day/night, foot massages, body massages, running around for groceries, baby stuff, etc. There is a lot that the guy has to do that may seem worth nothing to some pregnant ladies but not all are like that.

james smith said "i thought this was about buying your kids some sort of toy that they push--sorry to say there is no need for presents for everything we do in life-you are going to need the money for food and diaper and clothes for the baby--     Edited by james smith, 2015-07-10 09:18:12"

I first thought this too lol. I had to google it.  
 
I think if the father wants to give the mother a gift and can afford too, by all means go for it! However, from what I read online about this trend, it's the moms informing the dads about this gift giving and I find that incredibly tacky.  
 
I also think that there are many great dads who should be getting a gift as well if this is the route you wanna go and the baby itself is not gift enough.

"I deserve" is a sign of the times, IMHO. There's a mentality in our society that says I should be rewarded.  
 
I had chores when I was kid because I was part of a family. Now kids, say "how much?" when parents ask them to do something around the house (not all, but many).  
 
I'm trying to imagine my grandmother's reaction to this new trend. She gave birth 7 times. *laughs  
 
I know someone who recently lost her days old baby.....be thankful for your healthy child!!!

I didn't even know this was a thing and just a baby not even a year ago! My greatest gift was having those beautiful blue eyes looking up at me. But honestly the perfect gift from my fiancé was just bringing me coffees before he went to work and helping me with dishes and cleaning in the evenings!  
Obviously physical gifts are always excellent and of course I joked about how I need good money spent on me because of the gift I have him. But, would never expect or demand one. That's just me though.  
However, those who do expect a gift from their significant other, and the partner is completely comfortable with it - I don't think there is anything wrong with it!

are the best gifts a man can give to his wife........

someguy said "If you need recognition for doing something like this, you're doing it for all the wrong reasons I think. "

"Recognition" as stated before can be given in MANY ways. I'm curious why "recognition" seems to have a negative connotation to it when it comes to pregnancy and child birth?  
I would hope if your partner/wife just went through the discomfort of 9 motnhs of pregnany and the pain of child birth, that you would "recognize" (yes, Im sticking with that word) her strength and beauty to endure pregnancy and bringing in life. Remember ~ recognition can be given in a few words like my partner did, "Wow honey, you are my hero and forever will be". That was enough for me OR "recognition" can be in the form of a gift. Ie - flowers. To each their own.

But in your original post you claim your hubby didn't get you a gift and you were bitter. Mixed messages here.

She needs to recognize that it's her choice whether or not to go through the nine months of pregnancy....

someguy said "But in your original post you claim your hubby didn't get you a gift and you were bitter. Mixed messages here. "

like Prissy02 said. You obviously have a sense of humour, Someguy, as you write in these ridiculous discussions (something I've never actually wasted my time on before). BUT Obviously childbirth is not fun - Talk to a woman about child birth after you've pushed something the size of a watermelon out your walnut hole 57 del of pain (20 bones being fractured at once) ... It deserves a little RESPECT ... or dare I say, recognition.  
Go have a beer and dont respond cause I wont be reading it. Cheers and happy weekend.  
Rock on Moms and to the original guy asking what would be a good gift... after all of this debate on words verse gifts verse service = how about you get her the 5 Love Languages book so that you can understand your partner's love language is and so she will understand yours. All the best to you and your wife as your embark on parenthood!

IMO, stupidest thing I have ever heard of. Everything is being commercialized and there's no need for this to be. Baby shower is one thing, a push present, ridiculous.

Does the guy get a push present upon confirmation of conception. Not every sperm works and there could be room for some marketing strategies here.

LMAO. How ridiculously shallow can a person be? A "push present"? Got news for you, that "watermelon pushed out your walnut hole" is that present. If your baby is alive is your present. If you survive the process is your present. And if a selfish woman actually has a guy who will put up with that bullshit is your present. That a man intentionally trusted you with the life of his child and to be the greatest influence on that child is your present.  
Obviously "unconditional love" is not in your vocabulary or a concept you try comprehend.  
 
By the way, I am a mom. And my "push present" weighed over 10 lbs, over 24", went immediately into six month old clothes and was born naturally. I am so freaking blessed to have the best "push present" that could be bestowed upon mom. And frankly, to have gotten such an incredible gift of respect and love is humbling and fills me with awe everytime I see that face, hear that voice or get a choke-hold hug.  
Any gift comparing to that is an insult.  

Shouldn't the guy also get a gift for pushing 9 months earlier???

Fishin Guy said "Bahahahahahahahaha......Sorry.....A push gift? Isn't giving birth to life not enough of a gift? I know going through with my daughter I wasn't carrying, but being the guy I dealt with the mood swings, food cravings at all times of day/night, foot massages, body massages, running around for groceries, baby stuff, etc. There is a lot that the guy has to do that may seem worth nothing to some pregnant ladies but not all are like that. "

I also think push presents are ridiculous, I remember my husband asking about it three years ago but I said the baby was our present.  
 
I appreciated every thing my husband did for me during that period, but fishin guy you do realize that all that stuff you mentioned does not even compare with physically having a baby lol.

snowman5 said "Screw the flowers.... New born mothers shouldn't want "commercialised symbols of love", but the much more needed support and attention they deserve. My wife didn't want overpriced cut plants... she wanted time to sleep, have all the house chores done and someone to be there for them (both for her and the baby). Any experienced mother would know that four to six hours of straight sleep is desired more than some "bling" and having someone else changing diapers during the other half the day will always trump a dozen roses.     Just my opinion, I could be wrong. "

snowman have it all worked out, and most certainly are not wrong!  
 
I really hope this "pushpresent" b.s. doesn't become something people expect.  
 
The best gift is rest, time together, appreciation and respect.  
 
I hate it when people characterize women as being so hard done by and going through so much while they guy is just "there". My Bf was there to help, offer support, stayed up when I couldn't sleep, helped me be as comfortable as possible while I was prego, stayed up for days with me while I was in labour, took care of me and baby when we got home, worked long hours to make ends meet, and I couldn't even dream of asking or expecting anything else! Guaranteed he put in just as much effort and sacrifice and "hardship" as I did to make our family.  
 
Our gift to each other is our wonderful child, and the time we spend together, nice things we do to be considerate and cognizant of each others needs- not some store bought crap  
 
 
 
Edited by Happy Trails , 2015-07-10 22:03:50