Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 29
Thank you Buttonbean
6/10/2016 at 10:20 AM
Agreed with everything Buttonbean just said. YOU have a long journey ahead of you... and guess what? It is up to YOU on whether that is a positive journey or a negative journey. YOU must decide each and every morning that you have this beautiful little life to raise and to turn into a good person. I have been there. There's going to be ups and there's going to be downs, but I pray you have an amazing family and support system behind you. I did and I thank the Lord for that everyday. I NEVER in a million years would have guessed Id be the single mom. NEVER. Noone did. I followed life by the book, straight arrow, A grades, smart, educated, and respected. Sometimes we find ourselves in these situations and guess what, you'll never know how strong you are until strong is your only option. Sweety, its time for you to be strong now. You are going to get scared, nervous and you are going to feel shame. I still feel shame to this day. Like I said, I NEVER expected to be a single mom. My child is now 8 and I dont regret one single thing. He is AMAZING and I AM AMAZING. I am educated and I provide for not only my son on my own as child support hasnt been coming for half a year, but I own a house, new car and am educated, work full time and continue to pursue education. YOU and YOU alone can do ANYTHING you set your mind to. DO NOT RELY ON OTHERS FOR HELP, ADVICE OR FINANCIALS. Accept help, advice, financials, but know that you dont have to. You can do it on your won. You must always remember that this little life is counting on you to be responsible. And look at that... here you are asking for advice! GREAT first step. I am happy you are being proactive to this situation. Knowing your rights and what each parent is responsible for and possibly even having mediation and getting visitation/child support set up in advance is a GREAT idea. The biggest tip I got when I separated was get IT LEGAL AND IN WRITING!!! I cannot force this fact enough. It is a HUGE burden off your shoulders once its left to the lawyers decision and done. Child support is a legal decision on the amount based off their T4 and and the law decides how often = which is monthly. The law doesn't create child support to shame us into thinking we are not capable of providing for our child on our own or make us sound money hungry - it is there because it is FAIR. Two people made the baby, two people support the baby. In ALL aspects, not just money. So all you negative commenting folks should shut your trap and return to your white picket fence life and mind your own business. There was a great child hood story ya'll may remember - Bambi? "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."
Call Brandon's Legal Aid office today - RIGHT NOW. Also go down to the law office off Princess and 11th I think it is and talk to the Maintenance Enforcement people there. Go NOW. Stop reading all these ridiculous comments and get your life in order. Future you will thank current you.
Good luck, safe pregnancy and healthy delivery to you and baby. God bless.