Discussions

I've got this room mate who doesn't come across as the most responsible. She stays up until 3 in the morning doing laundry nearly every night when she's home. Like last night for example. Which is a big pain in the duckas, because my bedroom is next to the laundry machines.  
 
I've asked her repeatedly to stop doing the late night laundry. But, she seems to enjoy showing up around 11pm with her baby sleeping in her walker. Aparently I'm being a real jerk when I ask for some quiet, to the point that I've been threatened and belittled by her a number of times.  
 
So, I've taken to ignoring her. Since trying to discuss it only end up leaving me feeling like a worse person for it. Or trying to ignore the problem. But this doesn't make it go away. Last night she was at it again until 3am. When I got up to go to work at 7:30am this morning, her child was already awake and making a bunch of noise when I woke up.  
 
I know for a fact that my room mate wouldn't be waking up for hours still, and there were a bunch of burnt noodles in the kitchen. Not even going to go on about how someone burns a noodle. But, I'm concerned.  
 
Both for my emotional well being, and more specifically the well being of that small child.  
 
I dont' want to be a part of this, or have to bear witness to any wrong doings in any way. Does my witnessing this type of behaviour make me guilty of something? Should I be feeling more obligated to take some course of action other than simply removing myself from the situation? Is this even any of my business?

Switch bedrooms, so that she's next to the laundry.  
 
Unless of course you're a couple, and share the same bedroom, in which case you have bigger problems.

But post partum depression or even regular depression sounds like the issue. I'd say move and contact either her family if she has any you know or friends. Second option mental health/ CFS, because the baby is st risk.

[i]"When I got up to go to work at 7:30am this morning, her child was already awake and making a bunch of noise when I woke up.  
 
I know for a fact that my room mate wouldn't be waking up for hours still, and there were a bunch of burnt noodles in the kitchen. Not even going to go on about how someone burns a noodle. But, I'm concerned."[/i]  
 
I'm wondering if there's a larger issue here than just being inconsiderate and making noise.  
 
1. Who's watching her child if he/she is up at 7:30, but your roommate won't be waking up for hours yet? Is the child unsupervised this whole time? Where is mom sleeping (i.e. on the couch while a toddler plays beside her, in her room while the child wanders the house, etc)?  
 
2. The only way I can think of you can burn noodles is if you leave them unattended. Is she falling asleep while cooking? Are you at risk for a fire in the home?  
 
There's more questions that need to be asked besides "please don't do laundry at 3 a.m.".

Abbysmum said "[i]"When I got up to go to work at 7:30am this morning, her child was already awake and making a bunch of noise when I woke up.     I know for a fact that my room mate wouldn't be waking up for hours still, and there were a bunch of burnt noodles in the kitchen. Not even going to go on about how someone burns a noodle. But, I'm concerned."[/i]     I'm wondering if there's a larger issue here than just being inconsiderate and making noise.     1. Who's watching her child if he/she is up at 7:30, but your roommate won't be waking up for hours yet? Is the child unsupervised this whole time? Where is mom sleeping (i.e. on the couch while a toddler plays beside her, in her room while the child wanders the house, etc)?     2. The only way I can think of you can burn noodles is if you leave them unattended. Is she falling asleep while cooking? Are you at risk for a fire in the home?     There's more questions that need to be asked besides "please don't do laundry at 3 a.m.". "

These are some of the things I'm concerned about. I am not so sure that I am safe. Especially when I've seen her consume alcohol on other occasions and lash out against herself. While her child has been under care with someone else.  
 
I know she's suffering in a large way, which is why I don't feel its right for me to take this too personally, but I have taken steps to remove myself from the entire situation.  
 
To answer your questions:  
 
1. Her child was in her crib.  
 
2. I am probably at risk, yes. If the case was, that I'd been able to sleep. Given that the laundry machines rumble my walls, and she continually slamming doors around the house. Because that's 'how she opens and closes the doors' but only when she isn't just putting her baby to sleep.  
 
So yeah, please don't burn down the house. Would seem to be a worthwhile admission, but I can only imagine.  
 
Thank you everyone.

we were never in a relationship of any kind of romantic nature.

My thoughts: Talk to her or a family member of hers before you consider contacting outside authorities (I'm guessing you mean CFS) as soon as you do that, that will change her life forever. That doesn't mean that I don't think you should stand by and do nothing. It's not right that her child is awake, more than likely in soiled diapers for hours on end until she decides to get her butt out of bed. As a Mom myself, I was and always have been up when my child is no matter if I slept for one hour or ten hours. When your child's eyes open you're automatically on Mom duty. So, I think your right and I do agree it sounds like she may have some PPD. Like I said, I would contact a family member or talk to her about what you've been witnessing and how you're not comfortable with it first, if that doesn't work then reevaluate and take next course of action you see fit. I would also suggest moving out or finding another roommate.