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Hello fellow ebrandoners!!  
Is there anyone out there who doesn't drink? Just being blunt, to the point, I would like to meet people who are not into it at all, not even once a year! LOL I honestly have had it with "drinking buddies" or like every dang weekend, or any excuse to drink!., I want to be around people who dont induldge into anything,. not that I have anything against anyone who does!! I just choose not to be around when its happening because I have had a long life of it and changed my lifestyle around.  
I come from a background of heavy drinking and my mother was an alcoholic, still is to this day!  
i would fall to my knees and or pass out by fainting and astonishment if i found a guy who doesn't drink either, but it's almost impossible this day in age isn't it....  
PM me if you want to chat with "miss nerd here, i don't drink because im perfect". LOL jk no i just need friends on the same page! Or someone who has the same life story and is into sobriety!!  
 
No bashing me if you think im against people who do drink once in a while! I clearly stated I didn't do as you will and have fun doing it, life is too short!

And am looking to meet some decent friends who also don't drink. Both my husband and I no longer drink, not even at Christmas! Are you female or male? I am of course fale age 36 and my hubby age 38!

I am not a drinker either.  

was never a drinker and I sip wine only 2-3 occasions a year totaling to 1 - 1 1?2 glass in a whole year. I hate the taste and smell of beer.

I do not drink and I never have drunk. when I see change in some people's behavior and talking when they drink, I am really glad that I do not drink.  
 
Edited by Deb1, 2015-12-16 05:18:43

Never had a drop!

I used to drink more because of peer pressure. I'm now 35 and I realized that my friends shouldn't judge me based on my drinking habits. I now very seldom drink. I may have 3 beers a year. I drink because I feel I have to. I don't really like it. Most of my friends were a little more pushy at first but now they know I'm not a drinker. They are not everyday drinkers by any means but it seems to be more important to them as it is for me. I just don't like the feeling the next day, even after only a few drinks. I have just as much fun as they do without drinking. They now realize also that it's not that bad as they always have a driver

I don't drink alcohol.

I think that people can go to the extreme with too much emphasis on drinking as an important part of socialization, as well as the people who absolutely forbid it.  
For ourselves, we rarely have alcohol at this point in our life because we have small kids, and a majority of our socializing is done around children. If we happen to get out kid free, then a drink or two with dinner or whatever is great. We do not ever place priority on alcohol being a part of making a social experience good though.  
For us, we just accept other's views on what is important in their social experience. We have friends that insist that they wouldn't have a good time if they didn't have alcohol, and some that don't drink at all, ever. We all just respect each other's opinions, and we can still have a good social experience, even if some are drinking and some aren't.  
We tend to steer clear of situations where drinking becomes out of control though. For us, that is not necessary or fun.  
Just try and look for friends that simply respect that you don't drink, and that wont shove it in your face, or pressure you if they choose to order a drink while you are out with them, etc. Looking for people to be friends with just because they don't ever drink will probably be pretty hard. There are lots of aspects to a good friendship, and I wouldn't let a good friendship go to waste just because someone likes to have a drink every once in a while.

Im a once every year drinker ... maybe. When i do its like 2 drinks maybe 3, as truly i cant handle it, cause i never drink !!! I understand where your coming from, i currently have 0 friends that come to my house to hang out, as all my old friends drink almost every day. I just cant handle this, and i started to judge my friends for drinking every day, so i stopped hanging out with them. Now i get to have no friends, but at least now i can keep a 6 pack of beer in my fridge and it wont get drank. At the same time, sure would be great to have friends !! LOL

bought 3 alcohol bottles back in March which forget what they are as I never opened one yet and forget to offer to guess. My family are not drinkers too.

drink either. I may have some wine on special occassions, and typically half a wine glass. I can have just as good of a time without alcohol.  
 
I've just never had any interest in alcohol. I also don't drink tea or coffee.

I drink very rarely. Every now and than I'll have a glass of wine or a ceaser but usually it's just water...I'm so boring! Lol. I used to drink when I was younger but never had a problem being the DD. Most alcohol gives me a headache and now that I'm older, I hate how the next day is a waste as I get nothing done!  
 
I have alcoholics in my family but neither of my parents drank EVER, so a drink after work or every weekend is just not something I'm used too. However, I have no problem hanging out with those that drink. We have Xmas parties coming up and I'll be the DD at one and a few drinks at the others.  
 

Thank for reading this, Im pretty excites to know Im not tw only one out there that has changed or has a different lifestyle.  
I know and along with so many others that, the next day is so crappy because you are depressed and feeling lonely, tired etc.... from drinking... I dont know if its just me but I see it as an epidemic problem TBH... lol but enough with the observations. Life is to short to ponder too much an worry too much about others, lately its just been all about me! Hahaha  
 
Yes being DD makes me feel used, so I wouldnt enjoy that either. I dont know how people can be okay with it seeming its just a waiste of gas and energy... then again maybe its a way to make friends? Grrrr lol there i go again.  
 
!!!!! CHEERS !!!!! to all those celebrating this xmas tho, party on , dont party TOO HArd.,  
and if you can remember, dont drink and drive... is that an oxy moron?? LOL  
 
take care peeps.  
 

I certainly don't offer to be DD to make friends haha. When we were younger, we would take turns being the DD (or call parents lol) but now I'm DD because I'd like to get home safe  
 
If I was at a party and someone needed a ride I'd certainly give them one but it's not because I need a friend....it's because it's the right and safe thing to do!

i think i just cant handle being around parties or too many people anymore, I kinda secluded myself from society, I have no idea why... LOL

I can relate. I still drink on occasion but not much. I have found crowds increasingly less tolerable when not drinking. Just my experience but hear what you are saying.