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5/28/2009 at 12:07 PM
About a week ago I had a Cfs worker come to my house and inform me of some information that's been being spread around our town and im not to sure what I should do as a mother...
The story goes like this... A few weeks before giving birth to my now 7 week old son the fiance to my husbands youngest brother went to her Cfs worker and told her that my husband and I no longer wanted to keep the baby, that we were looking into giving him up for adoption when he was born. She then had told her that instead of going through the whole process of adoption that we were willing to give her our baby to raise and be the mother, she's 16! Also mentioned in this conversation was that she didn't think that we would be fit parents and she seemed to think that she would be doing the right thing by being the mother. A few days ago when the Cfs worker had told me about this I was furious to also find out that she had been telling people around the surrounding towns the exact same story up till now, also including that we neglected our son, didn't feed him, etc. So needless to say there had been a couple complaints put into the office and found to be false.
When I told my mother in-law about what the worker had told me she believed that the worker was telling the truth about it all, it wouldn't be a first time this young 16 yr old had lied to us all about serious situations. From then on mine and my husbands plan was to confront her about it and ask her what made her do this disgusting thing, but things changed. My mother in-law insists that the Cfs worker is lying to us about it all only because she is "attempting" to ruin this young girls life.... (as if).
My question is, would I be in the wrong to still confront her about these ridiculous things she is telling others? Or should we leave it and go along with my mother in-law? As a mother I feel that it is my reputation I need to be fending for as none of this is true and this young girl has a way of convincing people everything she says is the truth. In a sense im asking if we should keep family peace or if we should tear it all apart!