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They say venting is good for the soul! Here I go. Thru the years I think I always  
knew this but chose to ignore for family & freindship. I've discovered that the person always saying everyone around them only thinks of themselves, is usually the one doing just that! They don't see the bigger picture in situations, never realizing others are dealing with decisions and issues also, and maybe having an even harder time! So lesson learned, some freindships are only as long as the end of a nose!

This doesn't make much sense to me lol.

You are a very wise woman. Couldn't have put it any better.

it's sad when it is a close family member and they are pushing you away for no reason

Maybe you should read the post again. It refers to being manipulated is the best way to say it l guess.

Be kind! For everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

Its not about being manipulated, its more about someone being so focused on themselves all the time they don't see that others around them also feel pain and hurt!! Maybe the call they didn't get, they should of made!!

Annetta yes in a nutshell. Generally the givers are the easygoing types, who also, usually always go along with what the other person wants,always trying to pleas and basically letting their partner, family member whatever have it their way and end up getting hurt anyway. Then the giver reflects and eventually may, after many years realise, they need to change their gameplan and maybe lookout for thereselves.  
If you take a look around it is easy to see many people in communities, who are so self centred.  
Sadly those of us, who have now changed our gameplan, can sometimes end up on the fringes of commumities or families,ostracised, because we are not going to let people abuse our easygoing nature, or we are aware that some community members are abusing many of the others, actually believing that they are 'doing it for the community' Sometimes this means finding a new partner, friends or family, but the question would be why be emotionally blackmailed , because a lot of times that is what it is.  
There is hope there are some who do not take advantage, but they are few and far between. When you find one, you can say they are a true friend or partner. Cherish that relationship because they are hard to find.  
Some people do not know what ethics are let alone live by them.