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So long story short, my ex has custody of my daughter who is 11 years old! My daughters mental health is going downhill bad because she does not want to be at home with her mom! My ex does not do anything with her, except scream at her and make her watch her infant sibling all the time while she sleeps! My daughter cries Everytime it’s time to go home and is constantly telling us she wants to come live with me! What actions can I do or is there still really a age where the child can decide what parent to live with! Someone help please

It is 12 that they will take the child’s wishes into account. Best to talk to your lawyer.

Like the person above mentioned, it is twelve they will take the children's interest into account but it is not an automatic thing. If you haven't already I would look into getting a family lawyer (Manitoba has a huge shortage of family lawyers) and at least booking a consultation to discuss your options as it is really difficult to advise without knowing the current situation. You will likely be looking at anywhere from $250.00-$350.00 plus tax for a one hour consultation. Or you could try applying at legal aid (204-729-3492) Their application fee is only $25.00 and may provide you with a lawyer free of charge or offer payment plans that result in massive savings for family cases involving support, custody or divorce.

If you truly believe your daughter is at risk and she would be better with you OR with a 50/50 custody schedule (children have the right to spend equal time with both parents, assuming they are not being abused), and if you've spoken to her mother about it and she refuses to work with your daughter/you, then you need to find a lawyer to find out what your options are. If your ex is the type to put her need for control/chaos/drama/revenge ahead of your daughter's needs, then you likely won't get results until you see a judge. And that can be a long drawn out process that will not be cheap. Our custody battle took 5 years, and cost us $10,000 and the law has changed since then - the process is now more organized, but it is more difficult to get to a judge.  
 
Plus, our lawyer told us that a judge will only take the child's opinion into consideration as a last resort - courts DO NOT want to involve children in their own custody battle. So even if you get to the top, the judge might not let your daughter have a say. However, the judge may see that your daughter needs a 50/50 custody schedule without needing to speak to her.  
 
What you can do immediately though is to start documenting everything. Everything your daughter says happens at her mom's, everything she is feeling, everything you do with her on your days, every conversation you have with her mom. Document the good and the bad. Take screen shots of text messages, do whatever it takes to prove that you are trying to do what's best for your daughter.